Negative thinking is useful for identifying problems in our life, but, it can get in the way of doing something about it. If we are not careful, we can start to identify with the negative situation. “I’m not patient enough…”, “I’m not wise enough…”, “I’m not vulnerable enough…”

Worse, it can lead us to frame beliefs about the people in our lives or the world we live in. If we start to blame those around us and expect more from them, negativity can send us into a spiral of anger and sadness. …


Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not easy.

Aristotle, The Nichomachean Ethics

These days, I’m practicing breathing. The moment I buckle myself into my car and get on the road, I’m screaming at the top of my lungs at everyone around me.

I’m often worried about this impulsive lack of control. Everyday, I rifle through millions of thoughts in my head. …


My journal would NEVER look like this. I’m fine with that.

There are a couple of principles I keep when I journal. The first is that instead of calling it a journal, I call it a “brain dump”. I have to call it a brain dump to reduce the material importance I assign to it. If I get too caught up in making everything in it have some kind of special value or in making the thing look pretty, I’ll get stressed out by a perfectionist tendency and stop journaling because I’ll freak out over “not doing it right”.

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that journaling is…


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I love the transformative power of writing things down. It stimulates ideation and organization. Here are 11 lists to start adding to and pruning over time.

  1. Keep a reading list of books that will educate you about a particular topic you’re interested in, or of books that you just want to read for fun. Even fiction has a way of inspiring us and teaching us about ourselves. Not every book we read will change our lives, but we do get to build a consistent habit of reading and stimulating our imaginations. …

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It’s hard to be a good citizen in the Information Age. There’s too much to care about in the onslaught of the news cycle and it’s difficult to know what’s true amidst the spread of misinformation. Many of us struggle to make any good and right decision multiple times on a daily basis because of these challenges, and as a result we retreat into our bubbles of self-actualization and deeply held personal values. We make our best guess as to what’s good and right and stick with the information that quickly and easily confirms our guess as such.

This is…


These are mantras that I’ve gotten stuck in my head. I love a simple, useful quote. Each one usually triggers a different thought process for me that I’ll share with you.

“When you stop growing you start dying.” — William S. Burroughs

I had to look up who originally said this quote because I hear Josh Millburn from The Minimalists say it all of the time.

I like this quote particularly when Millburn uses it as an observation of comfort and discomfort. We often use comfort as a refuge or an excuse to remain where we are, to freeze our…


What is perfectionism?

It can be disguised as attention to detail, work ethic, and organization.

Perfectionists put off getting started because they worry they don’t have enough to time to do it “properly”, so they don’t even begin. They can be procrastinators.

People who say “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” sacrifice their health and well-being for their work. They waste time, resources, and produce lower quality work by cutting out sleep in the name of their project. “Work smarter not harder” should be a healthy truism to adopt instead.

How to stop perfectionism:

Acknowledge that perfectionism is born of insecurity. Our fears have a potent impact on…


Start with the acronym BUCH. Bereit?

BUCH

Brevity

One definition for good writing could be

“Writing exactly what you mean in as few words as possible.”

I could even say “as few syllables/characters” as possible. It’s your readers’ job to know the words, but it’s your job to get to the point. Begin the sentence. Then end it. Brief content is digestible. It’s like throwing a dopamine pie in the face of your reader.

There are ~1,000,000 words in the English language and the average adult has a working vocabulary of 20,000 words. That’s 40,000 for people with college degrees. When…


I’m obsessed with simplicity and accessibility of ideas. If there is a word in English that is not immediately understood then it can be explained in short, useful, better words.

Like interest. What a terrible word. It’s money you pay at a rate based on money borrowed. Rate or debt rate is fine and better than interest. The word itself uses the same psychology behind 0.99 cents — it’s that way because they want you to agree to pay it.

Then love. I think people could stand a chance to have better romantic relationships if they built their vocabulary to…

Benjamin Wallace

Human being.

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